These reflections on learning to recognise self-centredness in our own behaviour are based on Romans 2:1–11.

‘But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger.’ (v8) 

Here we have a very stark warning to the self-centred and self-seeking: they will incur God’s wrath and anger.

This passage from Romans invites reflection. It was written to the church in Rome and, in the previous chapter, Paul described the practises of sinful people. The church might have been feeling smug at this point. In chapter 2, however, he told them not to judge others, as it is only through Jesus’ sacrifice that we can be made right before God. The good news is that by choosing to accept Jesus as Lord we no longer ‘reject the truth’. We still can, of course, have a tendency to slip back into our old ways. That is why we need to learn to be more self-aware.

THE IMPORTANCE OF HONESTY

One of our elders recently mentioned in a preach that God has been teaching him how self-centred he can be. I think it was so brave but hugely beneficial for the congregation to hear him be so honest, as we can have a tendency to hide our faults from others. But God wants us to live together in community, encouraging one another towards holiness. Part of that is through being honest about our struggles (and yes that includes our struggles with self-centredness!).

BEING OPEN TO BEING CHALLENGED

Often it is as we draw closer to God that He begins to point out those things that He wants to change in our character. It is really helpful to ask God, and close friends too, to point out anything they feel could be a blind spot in our lives. This helps us to become more aware of the state of our souls.

Self-centredness is often applauded in our culture. Advertising, for example, is full of messages telling us to do what we want, when we want – and that we are worth it! However, God’s way of living is the complete opposite to that. Recognising the selfish traits we have is the first step to doing something about them.

Reflection: 1 Corinthians 13 paints a wonderful picture of selflessness. It points out how love is not self-seeking. Read and reflect on it, then turn to prayer.